Staying Flexible While Staying Connected
There’s a subtle, but powerful shift that happens in therapy rooms when people realize:
“I don’t have to do all the work alone — but I do have to do my part differently.”
As a therapist, I often witness this in family or couples work. There’s a moment when someone softens — not because they’ve been convinced or coerced — but because their body stops bracing. A breath releases. The shoulders drop. The eyes come forward again.
From the Therapist’s Chair: Unpacking the Systems We Live In
As therapists, we’re trained to notice roles in our clients: the helper, the fixer, the avoider, the explainer.
But these roles don’t disappear when we become clinicians. In fact, many of us were drawn to this work because of the roles we learned to play early on.
How Relationships Shape Us and We Shape Them.
This week, we’re exploring family systems theory and attachment science to better understand the emotional patterns we carry into adulthood. Often, what feels like “just the way I am” is actually “how I learned to be” in relationship to others.